We Bring Restoration to Our Own Life When We Share the Message of Hope With Others
It is imperative that we learn to practice the law of forgiveness, because it draws on new life. When we learn to surrender to its foundation, we draw on the power of strength from God, the divine source to expel the old. By holding on to thoughts of unhappiness, guilt, and shame causes inharmony to exist in our lives. Once new light is born in the conscious, it gives way to old errors; they lose their grasp and fall away. You must learn to accept the falling away of old. The presence of new is the outworking of God’s law in your life.
Purposed Survivor exists to support any individual who seeks freedom from the ramifications of domestic abuse. We carry a conscious contact with a loving Higher Power who guides our program, and the members involved.
The contents of this book will give you some guidelines for understanding the signs of domestic abuse, along with tips on seeking law enforcement assistance, and provides key actions to help keep yourself and your children safe with Getting Out Alive.
Welcome to the Purposed Survivor 12 Steps to Restoration Program. The Initial Beginnings book is a discussion of the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of the PS program. We all came into this program seeking restoration from an abusive situation. In this case, we understand the commonalities of each person’s accounts, but written or verbal, no one individual’s restoration is the same. This book is not meant to be an exhaustive study of PS’s steps or traditions, nor is it meant to be the final work on any aspect of restoration or PS unity.
Our hope is that you will find a sense of peace and freedom from the restoration process. We pray you will find a complete guide to living your life without existing in the ramifications of domestic abuse. As you progress in the program, your participation is what keeps hope alive to the newcomer. By relating the experiences of your past, you show them the path to freedom and a life filled with promises of a bright future.
The Purposed Survivor Program was designed with only one intention in mind, freedom. The ability to live free from a life consumed by domestic abuse, however, each person must be shown the way to seek out this restoration process for themselves. With compassion, purpose, and love for another member, we can achieve that goal. (The word restoration means to return something to its proper owner or place, or to give somebody new strength or vigor.) The Twelve Steps of the Purposed Survivor Program is a guide meant to move you along the path of restoration.
Many PS members identify themselves in meetings by their first name only. The spirit of anonymity is about placing “principles before personalities” and recognizing that no individual Survivor is superior to another, and that individual Survivors do not recover without the program or its spiritual principles.
PS exists to support any individual who seeks freedom from the ramifications of domestic abuse. We carry a conscious contact with a loving Higher Power who guides our program, and the members involved.
This community–based nonprofit partners resources, advocacy, and capacity for building increased effectiveness and expanded services to meet the increasing needs of our members.
This program envisions healthy self-sufficient individuals whose physical, emotional and spiritual needs are met by participating in regular 12-Step meetings, provided by the Purposed Survivor Organization. The Principles instilled by working this program lead dependent people toward economic independence.
We value unity and combined effort when it results in tangible repeatable outcomes. This accountability ensures that we accomplish our goals of meeting the needs of the vulnerable among us. There is no more important person than the new-comer in any meeting. We bring restoration to our own lives when we share the message of hope with others.
“We Admitted We Were Powerless to Our Abuser- And the Life We Lived Was Unmanageable.”
We must do more than just accept the abuse in our past to continue with a positive and successful future. The search begins with an inventory of the things that are hurting or angering us the most and then accepting those things for what they are. The next step is finding an organization with people who understand the trauma you endured and are willing to help you discover the dynamic individual you truly are.
Statistical facts prove the time when a victim is leaving or just after leaving is the most dangerous phase of “Getting Out Alive.” Therefore, it’s imperative you create a well-organized plan for escape, prior to the actual event.
The following list is an outline of only suggested actions. Each task may not apply to your current situation, but the ideas are necessary for your survival.
Signs of Abuse
Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not because of the abuser’s loss of control. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser to take control over their partner. (National Center Against Domestic Violence [NCADV] 2009).
The outline and guidelines listed in this chapter are just guidelines, they were not meant to scare you, or force you into deciding. However, the realities of Domestic Abuse are clear and serious. Changing your life, like escaping an abusive situation, is difficult and may seem impossible but there is hope and people willing to help when you are ready to make the choice.
We Bring Restoration to Our Own Life When We Share the Message of Hope With Others”